Comments on: “Every Face I Look at Seems Beautiful” http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/17/every-face-i-look-at-seems-beautiful-to-me/ Children's Book Author Wed, 09 Jul 2008 03:17:20 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Ren http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/17/every-face-i-look-at-seems-beautiful-to-me/#comment-7844 Ren Sun, 06 Jul 2008 16:50:41 +0000 http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/17/every-face-i-look-at-seems-beautiful-to-me/#comment-7844 Wow...what a great discussion, even though I came in a bit late apparently.:) First of all, loved your post. It's got a lot of sparks firing that I need to write about now. Thank you. I just want to respond to the comments about "relativity" and how unschoolers value all interests; That's the crux of the entire issue for me...VALUE. How can one human choose for another human what is valuable? My parents certainly didn't think interests I had were valuable, yet I've created my entire life around those interests today...including the way I make my income. It was valuable to ME,that's all that mattered. If a comic book or spongebob or World of Warcraft or (fill in the blank here) sparks a child's interest,then it's valuable to THEM and at that point, we have the choice to honor their interest or invalidate it. Doesn't change how they feel about the thing (though they might fake it in front of you in order to gain approval) but it does change how they feel about themselves. Having your interests put down or judged as "less than" is hurtful as a child. So yes, every interest my child has is valuable, even when *I* don't always share the passion.:) Now I need to go let my thoughts settle and simmer because I have SO many things to say about my own journey with the topic of "patience". Good stuff Melissa. Wow…what a great discussion, even though I came in a bit late apparently.:)

First of all, loved your post. It’s got a lot of sparks firing that I need to write about now. Thank you.

I just want to respond to the comments about “relativity” and how unschoolers value all interests;
That’s the crux of the entire issue for me…VALUE. How can one human choose for another human what is valuable? My parents certainly didn’t think interests I had were valuable, yet I’ve created my entire life around those interests today…including the way I make my income.

It was valuable to ME,that’s all that mattered. If a comic book or spongebob or World of Warcraft or (fill in the blank here) sparks a child’s interest,then it’s valuable to THEM and at that point, we have the choice to honor their interest or invalidate it. Doesn’t change how they feel about the thing (though they might fake it in front of you in order to gain approval) but it does change how they feel about themselves.

Having your interests put down or judged as “less than” is hurtful as a child. So yes, every interest my child has is valuable, even when *I* don’t always share the passion.:)

Now I need to go let my thoughts settle and simmer because I have SO many things to say about my own journey with the topic of “patience”. Good stuff Melissa.

]]> By: Mariposa Academy Homeschool » Blog Archive » again http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/17/every-face-i-look-at-seems-beautiful-to-me/#comment-7843 Mariposa Academy Homeschool » Blog Archive » again Sat, 05 Jul 2008 17:02:29 +0000 http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/17/every-face-i-look-at-seems-beautiful-to-me/#comment-7843 [...] Every face I look at seems beautiful to me, Melissa Wiley’s blog post about patience. [...] [...] Every face I look at seems beautiful to me, Melissa Wiley’s blog post about patience. [...]

]]> By: Barcelona Trip: The Final Evening | Melissa Wiley http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/17/every-face-i-look-at-seems-beautiful-to-me/#comment-7324 Barcelona Trip: The Final Evening | Melissa Wiley Tue, 06 May 2008 22:29:12 +0000 http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/17/every-face-i-look-at-seems-beautiful-to-me/#comment-7324 [...] Alison; I told her about the woods, the sculpture garden, the other garden. We talked about that John Stilgoe book I’ve written so much about here, and I mentioned the “every face I look at seems beautiful” quote from the Betty [...] [...] Alison; I told her about the woods, the sculpture garden, the other garden. We talked about that John Stilgoe book I’ve written so much about here, and I mentioned the “every face I look at seems beautiful” quote from the Betty [...]

]]> By: Respectful Parenting, Part 3 « In Need Of Chocolate http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/17/every-face-i-look-at-seems-beautiful-to-me/#comment-7214 Respectful Parenting, Part 3 « In Need Of Chocolate Fri, 25 Apr 2008 10:44:11 +0000 http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/17/every-face-i-look-at-seems-beautiful-to-me/#comment-7214 [...] reading veered off in a different direction when I read Melissa Wiley’s patience post, the comments and then several entries on blogs that were mentioned in the continuing discussion. I [...] [...] reading veered off in a different direction when I read Melissa Wiley’s patience post, the comments and then several entries on blogs that were mentioned in the continuing discussion. I [...]

]]> By: How is Unschooling like Santa Claus? « Red Sea School http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/17/every-face-i-look-at-seems-beautiful-to-me/#comment-7036 How is Unschooling like Santa Claus? « Red Sea School Sun, 13 Apr 2008 20:14:04 +0000 http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/17/every-face-i-look-at-seems-beautiful-to-me/#comment-7036 [...] shaun @ 2:13 pm Tags: homeschooling, unschooling I have been so interested in the many posts on homeschooling styles that have been cropping up around the homeschool blogosphere. It’s been on my mind a [...] [...] shaun @ 2:13 pm Tags: homeschooling, unschooling I have been so interested in the many posts on homeschooling styles that have been cropping up around the homeschool blogosphere. It’s been on my mind a [...]

]]> By: Kez http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/17/every-face-i-look-at-seems-beautiful-to-me/#comment-6995 Kez Wed, 09 Apr 2008 09:24:03 +0000 http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/17/every-face-i-look-at-seems-beautiful-to-me/#comment-6995 Wow. Just wow! I have just found your blog and this post really speaks to me. I am guilty of bad patience, and of impatience. This post has given me a lot to think about. Kez Homeschooling mum in Australia and wanna-be writer Wow. Just wow! I have just found your blog and this post really speaks to me. I am guilty of bad patience, and of impatience. This post has given me a lot to think about.

Kez
Homeschooling mum in Australia and wanna-be writer

]]> By: » Strewing and writing and rethinking Thinking Things Through http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/17/every-face-i-look-at-seems-beautiful-to-me/#comment-6989 » Strewing and writing and rethinking Thinking Things Through Tue, 08 Apr 2008 03:02:41 +0000 http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/17/every-face-i-look-at-seems-beautiful-to-me/#comment-6989 [...] reading many of the posts and comments that have been flying around the blogosphere initiated by Melissa Wiley’s post about patience (relating to parenting and unschooling) and beginning to read just a bit of Sandra Dodd’s website about unschooling, I’ve begun [...] [...] reading many of the posts and comments that have been flying around the blogosphere initiated by Melissa Wiley’s post about patience (relating to parenting and unschooling) and beginning to read just a bit of Sandra Dodd’s website about unschooling, I’ve begun [...]

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