Comments on: The Parenting Thread http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/29/the-parenting-thread/ Children's Book Author Fri, 19 Mar 2010 03:23:08 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Wreritype http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/29/the-parenting-thread/comment-page-1/#comment-11293 Wreritype Thu, 22 Jan 2009 05:33:17 +0000 http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/29/the-parenting-thread/#comment-11293 Nothing seems to be easier than seeing someone whom you can help but not helping. I suggest we start giving it a try. Give love to the ones that need it. God will appreciate it. Nothing seems to be easier than seeing someone whom you can help but not helping.
I suggest we start giving it a try. Give love to the ones that need it.
God will appreciate it.

]]> By: 00352 http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/29/the-parenting-thread/comment-page-1/#comment-6941 00352 Thu, 03 Apr 2008 21:14:01 +0000 http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/29/the-parenting-thread/#comment-6941 Being a mommy-to-be (5 weeks or so) there are so many questions and doubts about being a parent. There's such a large amount of online support is awesome! My favorite right now is www.ourbabysteps.com because it is not only focused on moms but also on dads so you get two different perspectives. My husband loves this site as well! Being a mommy-to-be (5 weeks or so) there are so many questions and doubts about being a parent. There’s such a large amount of online support is awesome! My favorite right now is http://www.ourbabysteps.com because it is not only focused on moms but also on dads so you get two different perspectives. My husband loves this site as well!

]]> By: Update: A Week Without Punishment « In Need Of Chocolate http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/29/the-parenting-thread/comment-page-1/#comment-6934 Update: A Week Without Punishment « In Need Of Chocolate Thu, 03 Apr 2008 13:16:07 +0000 http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/29/the-parenting-thread/#comment-6934 [...] April 3, 2008 by inneedofchocolate We’ve been through two full days now of not using punishments and overall I am much happier. It’s feels good not to be constantly threatening M with the punishment she will get if her actions don’t change   Instead, like Melissa said, I’m being creative about finding ways to do steer us in a better direction and actually enjoying the strategizing.  Here’s the quote from Melissa’s parenting thread: [...] [...] April 3, 2008 by inneedofchocolate We’ve been through two full days now of not using punishments and overall I am much happier. It’s feels good not to be constantly threatening M with the punishment she will get if her actions don’t change   Instead, like Melissa said, I’m being creative about finding ways to do steer us in a better direction and actually enjoying the strategizing.  Here’s the quote from Melissa’s parenting thread: [...]

]]> By: Sarah N. http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/29/the-parenting-thread/comment-page-1/#comment-6880 Sarah N. Tue, 01 Apr 2008 13:19:14 +0000 http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/29/the-parenting-thread/#comment-6880 My mind is still racing with questions about repectful parenting and unschoolyness (can that be a word?). I'm starting a punishment free week at my house. Anyone who is interested in how it goes can see updates at my blog (http://inneedofchocolate.wordpress.com). My mind is still racing with questions about repectful parenting and unschoolyness (can that be a word?). I’m starting a punishment free week at my house. Anyone who is interested in how it goes can see updates at my blog (http://inneedofchocolate.wordpress.com).

]]> By: Ebeth http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/29/the-parenting-thread/comment-page-1/#comment-6861 Ebeth Sun, 30 Mar 2008 21:44:14 +0000 http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/29/the-parenting-thread/#comment-6861 For the past 5 years, we have been homeschooling our 2 daughters. Things were going very well, I have to admit, until about a year ago...yes that's when I started blogging at the Pillars, but everytime I remind them of their chores, I get a look, the shrugged shoulders, the auuuugh! sound. I got tired of it, and then I yell. THings are not picked up, books are left on the floor, dishes are not done.....correctly and I blow up! My girls do NOt want to respond to me respectfully. I want them to answer me, "Yes/No, Mom." THEN, add, "but may I say something?" I told them that I would be very understanding and listen, but that they had to answer me in my terms. How do you get them to pick up after themselves. They are great at getting their work done, but one never gives me her work to correct and the other one does half of the time...... For the past 5 years, we have been homeschooling our 2 daughters. Things were going very well, I have to admit, until about a year ago…yes that’s when I started blogging at the Pillars, but everytime I remind them of their chores, I get a look, the shrugged shoulders, the auuuugh! sound. I got tired of it, and then I yell. THings are not picked up, books are left on the floor, dishes are not done…..correctly and I blow up! My girls do NOt want to respond to me respectfully. I want them to answer me, “Yes/No, Mom.” THEN, add, “but may I say something?” I told them that I would be very understanding and listen, but that they had to answer me in my terms.

How do you get them to pick up after themselves. They are great at getting their work done, but one never gives me her work to correct and the other one does half of the time……

]]> By: Respectful Parenting « In Need Of Chocolate http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/29/the-parenting-thread/comment-page-1/#comment-6858 Respectful Parenting « In Need Of Chocolate Sun, 30 Mar 2008 20:12:13 +0000 http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/29/the-parenting-thread/#comment-6858 [...] articles and comments that have sprung from Melissa Wiley’s original patience post and her latest post in this series. Last night I stayed up late following links and catching up on new comments, and [...] [...] articles and comments that have sprung from Melissa Wiley’s original patience post and her latest post in this series. Last night I stayed up late following links and catching up on new comments, and [...]

]]> By: Kathryn H http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/29/the-parenting-thread/comment-page-1/#comment-6856 Kathryn H Sun, 30 Mar 2008 17:37:22 +0000 http://melissawiley.com/blog/2008/03/29/the-parenting-thread/#comment-6856 The use of the word 'preventive' is interesting, as it is the word used to describe St. John Bosco's system of education (I chose him as patron for my homeschool because he took wild boys off the street and transformed them :o). At the heart of his method, he said, was simply to love the boys, and to always be in touch with what was really in their hearts- if you started with this, he said, you 'prevented' 99% of the conflicts which ended up being dealt with by punishments. He absolutely forbade the use of corporal punishment in his schools- and really, his whole approach- which was essentially Christ's!- was seen as so revolutionary at the time....but he proved that it worked!So much of his understanding of children can be applied to our own parenting and 'homeschooling' (why is that word coming to seem less and less appropriate?!) The use of the word ‘preventive’ is interesting, as it is the word used to describe St. John Bosco’s system of education (I chose him as patron for my homeschool because he took wild boys off the street and transformed them :o ). At the heart of his method, he said, was simply to love the boys, and to always be in touch with what was really in their hearts- if you started with this, he said, you ‘prevented’ 99% of the conflicts which ended up being dealt with by punishments. He absolutely forbade the use of corporal punishment in his schools- and really, his whole approach- which was essentially Christ’s!- was seen as so revolutionary at the time….but he proved that it worked!So much of his understanding of children can be applied to our own parenting and ‘homeschooling’ (why is that word coming to seem less and less appropriate?!)

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