Trip tidbits

May 28, 2011 @ 6:45 pm | Filed under: , , ,

So I went to Alabama for research. I have volumes to tell about the trip—Scott says I could write a book about the writing of this book! I am working on a detailed account of the trip, but I will probably save most of it for when the book actually comes out. But for now, a few highlights.

We flew into Atlanta last Saturday night—or actually, it was early Sunday morning, I guess. Was nearly 2am by the time we reached our hotel. That’s only 11pm San Diego time, so it wasn’t too awful. On Sunday morning we met our friends Brian Stelfreeze and Stine Walsh for brunch at Ria’s Bluebird, which is now one of my Favorite Places to Eat, Ever.


I could have eaten three bowls of those grits. The omelette was mushroom and fontina, if you’re like me and like to know as many details about people’s meals as possible. Also: homemade peach jam on those English muffins, and killer sweet tea.

We lingered long over our meal, and then lingered even longer in a baking parking lot talking to Brian and Stine, because we don’t get to see them that often and they are wonderful. I didn’t take any pictures! Unless you count my photo of a stinkbug on Brian’s shirt. What’s the matter with me?

Eventually we dragged ourselves away and headed west. First stop: Hueytown, Alabama, just south of Birmingham to visit my Great-Aunt Cinderella and Great-Uncle Terrell. Yup, Cinderella is her real name—but you can call her Aunt Cindy.

Aunt Cindy is my father’s aunt. Her older sister, Bettye, was the family genealogist and the person who first introduced me to the chapter of our family history that is the subject of my book. Aunt Cindy had her photo albums ready and waiting for me, and we spent several happy hours looking through them. She is a marvelous storyteller. This was to be a recurring delight on our trip—time with marvelous storytellers. I could have happily spent the whole week eating up Aunt Cindy’s stories. Uncle Terrell had some good ones of his own, too, but Scott had to tell them to me later because Aunt Cindy and I were talking a mile a minute.

All too soon we had to get back on the road. We wanted to reach our hotel before dark.

Alabama sky

We stayed in [Small Town] but didn’t spend much time there. Our real destination was [I will tell you when I can]. First thing Monday morning, we drove to the County Archives in the heart of town. This county has a rich and unusual history in which my ancestors played a large part, and, well, that’s why I want to write about it, and I can’t wait until I can talk about it more openly. The incredibly nice folks at the Archives knew we were coming and were so kind to us all week, helping me look up information on old churches and schools and cemeteries and ancestors. And one day I will tell you all about where and what and who and why.

By an incredible stroke of luck, a distant relative of mine happened to be at the Archives when we first walked in. Of course, we didn’t know we were relatives right at first. I mentioned I was working on a certain branch of the family, and one of the archive volunteers said, “Oh, you need to talk to Darryal!” and motioned this kindly fellow over. He is a local historian and teller of fine tales, and one of the sweetest people you could ever hope to meet. Right away he offered to “carry us” to some cemeteries and other sites of relevance to my work. Not that morning—he was on his way to the funeral of his aunt who had died at the age of 105—but if we’d return the next morning, he’d be there.

Well. That was pretty exciting indeed. We spent the rest of Monday morning working in the Archives—my heroic husband spent at least an hour making photocopies for me—and then we moseyed down the street for a stunningly delicious meal at the local diner. (We liked it so much we ate there the next two days.) Best carrot cake I’ve ever had. (I liked it so much I ate it the next two days.)

After lunch we went out driving, exploring the area. Our wanderings took us through some of the tornado-ravaged towns I wrote about the other day. We also visited this old jail.

Bright and early Tuesday morning, we met up with Cousin Darryal (it’s pronounced Darrell) at the Archives. He climbed into our rental car and steered us toward the first of three cemeteries on our morning’s agenda. And this is where I could tell tons of stories, but I’m saving them for the book. Suffice it to say that Darryal is an expert on parts of the chapter of history I’m writing about, and we got along like gangbusters. He’s absolutely a kindred spirit—a real live Matthew Cuthbert. And he very generously gave us his entire day—amazing.

We quickly established our shared ancestry. His great-grandfather was the brother of my great-great-great-grandfather. The patriarch of one of the families I’m writing about is our mutual ancestor: Darryal’s 2nd-great, my 4th-great. (And also my 5th-great, due to a marriage of first cousins once removed a little on down the line).

The grave of one of the other brothers (there were nine of them altogether). Darryal is one of the people whose efforts keep these graves well tended and adorned with flowers.

It was kind of an emotional morning. These people I’ve been writing about, who have become so real to me, my great-great-greats and great-great-great-greats, there they were, their names on the stones. I’m kind of glossing over the real stories here, because I really do want to save them for the book. But it was quite something, seeing their graves and (later) walking on their land.

Darryal took us to see a creek bluff where one of my ancestors hid out for a while, and many other sites. And when I mentioned some of the other families I’m writing about, he said I needed to meet his buddy O’Neal, who—as it turns out—is ALSO my third cousin twice removed, but through an entirely different family line. He’s not kin to Darryal; they went to high school together. They both knew my father’s Aunt Bettye very well—“She was a dear friend to me,” said Darryal. “We dearly miss her.”

And so it came about that the next morning, we met Cousin Neal, and he took us on a tour of a whole different set of sites. We visited the cemetery where our mutual ancestor (again, his 2nd-great, my 4th-great) is buried, and then, O marvel of marvels!, he drove us right out to the spot where that ancestor homesteaded. I got to see where the house once stood, and we bumped down a steep branchy-slope-formerly-known-as-a-road to see the very spot in the river where the people in my book almost certainly swam and fished and swatted mosquitoes.

Cousin Neal is another born storyteller, with a deep and resonant voice, and a merry twinkle in his eye. He too gave us a full day of his time, even inviting us home to meet his wife Dot, where showed me some wonderful photos and even gave me some to keep. I could have stayed there a week, too.

Actually what I’d love to do is move my family there for the next year and write the novel in that beautiful hill country. I guess I’ll have to make do with going back someday—this time with the whole gang in tow, and my parents too. Perhaps when the book comes out.

Cousin Darryal
Cousin Darryal

Cousin Neal
Cousin Neal

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  1. sarah says:

    It’s fascinating to me that people live in a country where the time zones change between shorelines. We can walk between shorelines, at our narrowest point, in one day.

    Your poor aunt, being named Cinderella. Mind you, I suppose it’s better than Donkeyskin.

    It sounds like a wonderful trip with such interesting people. I am so much looking forward to reading the book. How lucky to have a story that requires such interesting research.

  2. Penny says:

    This brought tears to my eyes. I can only imagine all that belonging you felt as you traced the footsteps of “your people”. I’m jealous. In a good way of course!

  3. Ellie says:

    I know a Kelly Cinderella. And an Aladin that also goes by his nickname. I think cousin Darryal somehow has your eye shape! When I go to my father’s village it is typical when one meets somebody new to try to find a common ancestor. It’s rarely impossible. I am very curious about the book!

  4. Sara says:

    I can’t wait for this book! It sounds like such fun. That’s really neat to have met your cousins!

  5. Jordin says:

    I *LOVE* this adventure of you writing this book! It feels like I am looking at the Christmas tree with all the gifts wrapped up under it! Oh the anticipation!!!

  6. tanita says:

    WOW. Just — wow. Such a snapshot of Americana. And bugs.

    Also, your cousins are too cute, I love their facial hair.

  7. Pam says:

    Wow, a Melissa Wiley book set in my home state. Can’t wait to read it!!

  8. Elizabeth H. says:

    Great story, and what a treasure trove for you!

    [And an I-was-an-editor-in-a-previous-life aside — typo in geneAlogist. Forgive me!]

  9. Melissa Wiley says:

    Typo correction is ALWAYS appreciated! Seriously. 🙂 I trained under an editor who still believed in “Bartlebying” every page—one of us would read a text aloud, noting every quote, banger, and stop, and another would follow along with a separate copy, making sure every banger and stop was in proper relationship to each quotation mark.

  10. Melissa says:

    The historian in me is so envious of your trip! The best research is the stuff that has you digging into archives and talking to interesting people. Such riches that so many folks are still in the area too!

  11. Ellie says:

    Amazing. I can’t wait to read the book and hear all the back stories! Wow. (this sort of thing would never happen to me: I am far too paralytically shy)


  12. KimN says:

    How exciting to retrace your roots that way. I can’t wait to read the finished book!!

  13. KimN says:

    how exciting to be able to trace your root that way. I can’t wait to read the book….2012 seems a long way off…:(

  14. Tabatha says:

    Stories and Southern cookin’ — can’t beat that with a stick!